Comments on: On being married to an ENFP http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185 Mon, 06 Sep 2010 18:03:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Marjie http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1264 Marjie Fri, 29 Aug 2008 10:56:21 +0000 http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1264 You've hit Julie right on the button! But I think you shortchange yourself -- you are correct in your assessment of your orderliness, and need for research before doing anything. But you have many qualities that introverts may not have such as a complete involvement with your family. You as a "somewhat" introvert and Julie as an "extreme" extrovert are good for each other. You both have complemented each other since your marriage and have both changed for the positive. I like both of you the way you are (even though Julie "tires me out" with her projects!) As an introvert and sort of "neat freak" I can sympathize with you. It's interesting that Gabriel is so like you and Lily is so like Julie, it's scary. You’ve hit Julie right on the button! But I think you shortchange yourself — you are correct in your assessment of your orderliness, and need for research before doing anything. But you have many qualities that introverts may not have such as a complete involvement with your family. You as a “somewhat” introvert and Julie as an “extreme” extrovert are good for each other. You both have complemented each other since your marriage and have both changed for the positive. I like both of you the way you are (even though Julie “tires me out” with her projects!) As an introvert and sort of “neat freak” I can sympathize with you. It’s interesting that Gabriel is so like you and Lily is so like Julie, it’s scary.

]]> By: smarmoofus http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1249 smarmoofus Fri, 01 Aug 2008 04:20:03 +0000 http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1249 *giggle @ Julie* We INTPs have our soft sides. I admit that. I took a class after I finished law school and then quit my career after a couple of years because I wasn't enjoying it, because I'm an INTP and I'm good at everything and I can't decide what I want to commit to for the rest of my life (thank goodness I don't have student loans to pay back!)... Anyway, I took a class called Career & Life Planning, fully expecting to come out of it with a roadmap for my life. That didn't happen. But I learned a lot about the MBTI and the different personality types. And one of the things we discussed was how they relate to one another in different situations. In the workplace is one thing, but living with someone, such as in a marriage, is completely different. Our instructor said that, in relationships, it's generally best if you match in 2 or 3 of the categories, but not all four (and certainly not less than 2!). Your differences complement but they're not so great that you can't relate to one another. I think this exchange of "Being married to an..." posts is a perfect illustration of how right my instructor was. Plus, it's just fun to talk about. -<a href="http://www.smarmoofus.com" rel="nofollow">smarmoofus</a> *giggle @ Julie* We INTPs have our soft sides. I admit that.

I took a class after I finished law school and then quit my career after a couple of years because I wasn’t enjoying it, because I’m an INTP and I’m good at everything and I can’t decide what I want to commit to for the rest of my life (thank goodness I don’t have student loans to pay back!)…

Anyway, I took a class called Career & Life Planning, fully expecting to come out of it with a roadmap for my life. That didn’t happen. But I learned a lot about the MBTI and the different personality types. And one of the things we discussed was how they relate to one another in different situations. In the workplace is one thing, but living with someone, such as in a marriage, is completely different. Our instructor said that, in relationships, it’s generally best if you match in 2 or 3 of the categories, but not all four (and certainly not less than 2!). Your differences complement but they’re not so great that you can’t relate to one another.

I think this exchange of “Being married to an…” posts is a perfect illustration of how right my instructor was. Plus, it’s just fun to talk about.

-smarmoofus

]]> By: Julie http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1247 Julie Fri, 01 Aug 2008 03:15:23 +0000 http://chezartz.com/matt/?p=185#comment-1247 The thing I love about Matt is that he is focused on the T(hinker) in his MB type that he can almost, almost, pretend he isn't one of the more sensitive men that I know. It's all shtick, just watch him with his daughter sometime. The thing I love about Matt is that he is focused on the T(hinker) in his MB type that he can almost, almost, pretend he isn’t one of the more sensitive men that I know. It’s all shtick, just watch him with his daughter sometime.

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